A Quick Guide on How to Make a Baby
First off let’s all take a step back and get excited about what’s to come in your future. 10 tiny toes and 10 little fingers! there’s nothing cuter than a new baby and especially yours. We are excited to take on this journey with you, so let’s dive on into the nitty-gritty.
1. Get Yourself Prepared for Pregnancy
- Set up an appointment with your gynecologist to discuss any health-related issues you might have with fertility.
- Begin taking a prenatal that contains folic acid, this will help prevent any spinal tube defects in your baby. (taking it before you get pregnant is more effective than after)
- Get IUD removed or stop taking birth control
2. Too Wing it or Not
If you’re like me I have to plan (even though my first child was an oops baby). So now is the time to decide which method is right for you. Take the “let’s see what happens approach” or to start charting those ovulation days. If planning then you need to start to record your cycle so you can plan on that ovulation day
3. Understanding your Cycle
First things first are to understand your cycle. You have a fertile window of about five to six days long. Most women have an average of a 28-day cycle and ovulate on day 14. However, not everyone is average and neither am I. So your best bet is to document it and we will show you some easy ways to do this below!
How to create a baby can be simple or challenging, everyone is different so don’t get down on yourself if someone’s journey happens to be faster than yours. It can be hard to ignore all the noise, especially with social media in the way. But trust me your time will come and if not hey there are so many other options out there to help!
When your egg is released from your ovary you will have a 12 to 24-hour window to get it fertilized! Time for some hanky panky lol. On the upside though, sperm can live up to five days so have some fun at least once a day during this time.
The trick to all of this is to make sure that the sperm and egg are both alive at the same time. You put these two things together and you have officially started the process of a baby!
This is the number one reason why it is vital that you know when you ovulate.
If you ovulate on a Saturday at midnight and had sex anytime that, then the likelihood of fertilization is pretty good! Even if you had sex that Thursday, Friday, or Sunday you would still have a chance of becoming pregnant. Timing is key to everything.
4. Read Body Signals
Some people like to take an all-natural approach to become pregnant. So by reading your body signs such as a drop in basal temperature or cervical mucus you can achieve pregnancy without the help of outside devices.
During your cycle, your discharge will take on many forms. From sticky to dry, then wet, then creamy, and when it finally reaches the stage of egg whites you are about to ovulate. This consistency makes it easier for sperm to travel up the uterus to the egg.
NOTE: If you plan on using lube be sure to use a sperm friendly loop such as Pre-Seed. Others will hurt the sperm and prevent pregnancy.
If you are able to do your own cervical exam you will notice that your cervix will become softer, higher, and more open. This is a sign that you are about to begin ovulating or you have already started.
Other side effects include cramping, breast tenderness, more interest in sex, and spotting.
5. Get Some Help from Technology
- Fertility monitors (like Clearblue fertility monitor) – Fertility monitors provide a more in-depth read. First, pee on the strip. Then insert it into the machine and it will tell you if fertility is low, high, or peak.
- Ovulation Strips (Try These) – Ovulation strips are an easy way to tell if you are fertile. Simply pee on the strip. If the test line is dark or darker than the control, then you are probably fertile.
- Mobile Apps (Try Glow and Kindara) – Tracking you period cycles along with signs of ovulation these apps can give you a pretty good estimate on when you will be ovulating. (This is the method I used personally and got pregnant my first try!)
- NEW! Wearable devices (Ava) – This is a new product that is an overnight wearable and tracks changes in your body. Notifying you when you are close to ovulating.
6. Time for the fun part, SEX
If you decide to go the all-natural route your best bet is to have sex at least every other day. This will ensure that not only sperm are readily available but also to help with sperm count from your partner. Ejaculating every 2 to 3 days makes for the healthiest sperm!
If you are planning on using apps or other outside sources to help tell when you are ovulating. I would suggest having sex every day in that fertile window. This will make sure to give your man’s sperm a boost.
7. Lastly, Have Fun
Trying to conceive can be stressful, especially when it doesn’t happen the first few times. Be sure to take it easy and don’t try to force anything. Engage with your partner and grow that strong bond you already have. Soon your time will come too. So just relax and enjoy the ride mama!